One of the most frequent questions we get asked is to give advice on how to word Guest Information Cards. These are sent out with the wedding invitations with all the information guests will need for your big day, including directions to the church and venue, accommodation choices if the venue cannot put up all your guests, and anything else you think they’ll need to know (dietary requests, if children are invited, rsvp details). And information on the essential wedding list. However this is where some brides and grooms hit a problem. As many modern couples have already lived together before getting married, they don’t need a traditional wedding list where they requested such items as linen, kitchen and table ware, and everything they’d need to set up home. Instead many couples prefer money to help towards the cost of a honeymoon, or so they can buy a large item such as furniture or home improvements. But how to say this without sounding mercenary – give us the cash or else! Here’s a few simple phrases that let your guests know you have a more informal gift list.
Your presence rather than presents are important to us however John Lewis gift vouchers would be appreciated.
Having just moved into our first house together there are still many things we need for our new home. We would appreciate gift vouchers for Next, Ikea or M&S. But please do not feel obliged to buy us anything – we would just love you to be there.
And here’s some more creative ideas that past Brides and Grooms have come up with:
We can’t wait to see you on Saturday, is the first thing to say
We hope you can share the love and happiness on our wedding day.
So if your thoughts were of a gift, your presence will suffice
But if you really want to, help towards our honeymoon would be nice.
The choice is really up to you and we would like to say
We hope you come and enjoy yourselves and have a lovely day.
We know it’s not traditional, it’s not the way it’s done
But instead of a wedding list, we’d like a bit of sun
Please do not think of us as rude, please do not take offence
We do not want to upset you, that’s not the way it’s meant.
We’ve lived together quite a while and all the bills are paid
We’ve got out plates, our pots and pans, our plans have all been made.
So if you’d like to give us a gift to help us celebrate
Some money for a honeymoon we really would appreciate.
To celebrate our wedding you may wish to buy us presents
However this is not required, all we want is your presence
If you insist, we must admit, some money would be great
to help us with our new house at a later date.
Regardless of which choice you make, all we would like to say,
is come along and have some fun, on this our special day.